No matter if Christmas, Easter, Chanukka, Lunar New Year, End of Ramadan or another holiday is the most important holiday for you, we are all on the same page when talking about the feeling of spending these days far from home and our families.
For me, both Christmas and Lunar New Year (or Chinese New Year) were days I spent with my parents and siblings. Sadly though, I haven’t been able to come back home to celebrate Lunar New Years with my family for 6 years in a row now.
Lunar New Year in my family is usually just filled with lots of food and drinks until it’s time to hit the temples or pagoda and get red envelopes with money in it.. ahh good childhood memories 🙂
And since Chinese New Year is not necessarily a big thing here in Europe and Asian families have their own traditions and close family and friend circles, I can’t help but feel very lonely on that particular day. It’s more or less a usual day here in Denmark and it made me realize: “Hej Tuni, you are on your own here.” Even with really sweet friends who send me Lunar New Year wishes, it just doesn’t feel the same way. When I moved abroad, I knew this will be a downside of living in a different country but that doesn’t make me miss my family less on holidays.
So when the festive days come, I can’t help but feel lonely and somehow left out, like I am missing out from my own family celebrations and I am not really a part of my family anymore. I remember last December, I spent the Christmas days with my friends in Taiwan and they made me feel “homey”. We had lots of get-together over the holidays with so much food and lots of fun. We just had our own little Christmas celebration without our family 🙂
Our Christmas potluck get together over the Christmas days in Taipei 🙂
However, no matter how much you love your friends, you still miss your family. Maybe you do the same and skype with your family when they are all together and you get to “see” them in a way – but only through a screen while everyone enjoys dinner together or sits in the living room with some coffee and cake. Somehow that always gives me the feeling, I am missing out and ..I am excluded from the family gathering. In these moments, I would have loved to be sitting at that table, eating with them, and even get bombarded with questions (and get mocked for not being married yet .. which happens often for Asian girls over 25) 😛
Another thing is, I feel that spending these holidays with someone else’s family (such as your boyfriend, husband or best friend) is the most bittersweet feeling. On one side you feel so grateful for having a family far from home and being so close to people that you get invited and included in such a personal and close circle.
A stock photo from a Christmas dinner because in my family we never went overboard with decorating the dinner table like this 😀 We combined culture and had a Christmas tree and lots of Asian food 🙂
On the other hand, don’t you miss your family the most when you see your partner or friend laughing with their mom and dad or joking around with their sibling? I personally can’t help but feel a bit of jealousy because they are able to spend the holidays with their family while I deep down miss my family so much but can’t visit them.
At the end of the day, it is a price we pay for living, working or studying abroad and pursuing a personal goal. Nevertheless, it doesn’t make it less easy to spend holidays without your family, don’t you agree?
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